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Stop asking people to maximize - Mark Xu

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When getting to know people, people sometimes ask “what’s your favorite <category>?” (where <category> can be books, movies, tv shows, colors, foods, etc.) This question is not computationally kind - it asks people to maximize over all items in <category> and pick the one that they like best. It forces people to compare many things against each other along many dimensions. A better question to ask people is “what are some instances of <category> that you like?” Asking people to statisfice is much kinder than asking them to maximize. In practice, the answers to this question are likely indistinguishable from the answers to the previous question. In general, there are a lot of standard conversational patterns that have large computational costs hidden in words like “best” or “favorite”. I encourage you to replace these patterns with ones that don’t require maximization. Examples: What’s your favorite color? -> What’s a color you enjoy? What’s your best childhood memory? -> What’s a fond

When getting to know people, people sometimes ask “what’s your favorite &#x3C;category>?” (where &#x3C;category> can be books, movies, tv shows, colors, foods, etc.) This question is not computationally kind - it asks people to maximize over all items in &#x3C;category> and pick the one that they like best. It forces people to compare many things against each other along many dimensions. A better question to ask people is “what are some instances of &#x3C;category> that you like?” Asking people to statisfice is much kinder than asking them to maximize. In practice, the answers to this question

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