Marry Your City - by Daniel Golliher - Maximum New York

The benefits of a good marriage cannot be overstated. Selecting a partner (well or poorly, or not at all) is one of the most important decisions you make in life. Where you choose to live should be regarded similarly: you should do it deliberately, and you should commit to a place. Marriage is a special form of commitment. It cuts off optionality and restricts you in some ways—most people readily see that, and it’s why they’re hesitant to get married too young. But they should look at the other side of the ledger: commitment cuts off some options, but unlocks far greater benefits that are well worth it—cultivated love, a partner, a team player, and more. The relationship that you get from a marriage cannot be selected, only grown over time. You simply cannot have it without long-term commitment. Further: You gain the benefits of having a large part of your life decided—you are no longer looking for a spouse, or incurring the cognitive overhead of trying to preserve your optionality in

The benefits of a good marriage cannot be overstated. Selecting a partner (well or poorly, or not at all) is one of the most important decisions you make in life. Where you choose to live should be regarded similarly: you should do it deliberately, and you should commit to a place. Marriage is a special form of commitment. It cuts off optionality and restricts you in some ways—most people readily see that, and it’s why they’re hesitant to get married too young. But they should look at the other side of the ledger: commitment cuts off some options, but unlocks far greater benefits that are well