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Commit before you're ready - Tommy Dixon

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One of the biggest fallacies about commitment is that there is a right person/city/career out there waiting for you to find it. And once you do, you'll suddenly be ready to commit. But great things aren't just out there waiting for you. They are created. They are built. In the commitment equation, people overestimate the importance of finding the right thing and underestimate the necessity of making it the right thing through their decision to commit1. * In Le Petit Prince, the prince stumbles into a garden filled with beautiful red roses. He’s aghast. He thought his rose was the only one of its kind. But later, the prince realizes all the other roses, although identical in appearance, are not so special. “You are not at all like my rose. You are beautiful, but you are empty,” he said. “One could not die for you. To be sure, an ordinary passerby would think that my rose looked just like you—the rose that belongs to me. But in herself alone she is more important than all the hundreds of

Essays Commit before you're ready against temporary living Tommy Dixon Mar 23, 2024 424 59 108 Share Update: I’ve published a deluxe edition of this essay here . Cobblestone Bridge (Thomas Kinkade, 2000) "Men did not love Rome because she was great. She was great because they had loved her." — G.K. Chesterton One of the biggest fallacies about commitment is that there is a right person/city/career out there waiting for you to find it. And once you do, you'll suddenly be ready to commit. But great things aren't just out there waiting for you. They are created. They are built. In the commitment

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