the pros and cons of trying to change someone - by Ava

If you’ve ever changed someone accidentally or on purpose, you know that it’s very much possible for people to change, sometimes in dramatic ways. If you’ve ever set out to change someone, you know that it’s unlikely to work, and likely to be a huge waste of time. If the question is “Is it okay to want to change someone?” my answer would be, Of course. We are allowed to want people to be different. If the question is, “Is it prudent to try to change someone?” I would say, Definitely not. Your life will probably be better, and definitely be more straightforward, if you take people exactly as they are. This is classic dating advice for a reason. It is good practice to note somebody’s flaws as they are revealed to you and presume that each flaw will remain intact until the day the person dies. This is because people are stubborn. If you’ve ever tried to convince a friend to breakup with a bad girlfriend or boyfriend, you know exactly what I mean. Someone can tell you of their own accord t

If you’ve ever changed someone accidentally or on purpose, you know that it’s very much possible for people to change, sometimes in dramatic ways. If you’ve ever set out to change someone, you know that it’s unlikely to work, and likely to be a huge waste of time. If the question is “Is it okay to want to change someone?” my answer would be, Of course. We are allowed to want people to be different. If the question is, “Is it prudent to try to change someone?” I would say, Definitely not. Your life will probably be better, and definitely be more straightforward, if you take people exactly as th