undoing the pain

recently, i noticed some people i know are very well-adapted. able to motivate themselves to do what they desire. able to enjoy as much of their life as possible. able to feel emotions freely without being trapped by them. able to connect with others, make friends. pleasant to be with. but above all, these people have a feeling of being unassailable. they are extremely themselves, in a way that can’t be taken from them. not only are they largely free from past trauma, but seemingly resistant to current and future trauma. strong, but not strong through rigidity or shutting out feelings -- strong because they have fully embraced their feelings in a healthy way. they are free to live, free from being held back by their own inhibitions.[1] there’s one more important thing. these people weren’t born like this. they didn’t grow up like this either. it was something they became, even if not intentionally. some used to be trapped by past trauma or even suicidal. and they came from all kinds of

undoing the pain undoing the pain a guide to being free for those of us who never learned how or for those of us who are and want to be able to share but don’t know how. foreword recently , i noticed some people i know are very well-adapted. able to motivate themselves to do what they desire. able to enjoy as much of their life as possible. able to feel emotions freely without being trapped by them. able to connect with others, make friends. pleasant to be with. but above all, these people have a feeling of being unassailable . they are extremely themselves , in a way that can’t be taken from