Victoria Chang's "Grief" - by Devin Kelly

Thoughts on grief and comparison.

Victoria Chang's "Grief" Thoughts on grief and comparison. Devin Kelly Sep 25, 2022 25 8 1 Share Grief— Text within this block will maintain its original spacing when published Grief—as I knew it, died many times. It died trying to reunite with other lesser deaths. Each morning I lay out my children's clothing to cover their grief. The grief remains but is changed by what it is covered with. A picture of oblivion is not the same as oblivion. My grief is not the same as my pain. My mother was a mathematician so I tried to calculate my grief. My father was an engineer so I tried to build a box a

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