Relationships are coevolutionary loops - by Henrik Karlsson

This is essay is part of a series, but it can be read independently. The first part, “Looking for Alice,” I wrote for two friends who wanted to know how I thought about finding someone to share your life with. The second part, “Dostoesvky as lover,” was about open dialogue in relationships. “Dependence is scorned even in intimate relationships, as though dependence were incompatible with self-reliance rather than the only thing that makes it possible.”  ― Maggie Nelson, The Argonauts When I meet a person who is truly, profoundly, themselves, I sometimes think of a letter Charles Darwin sent to Joseph Hooker in January 1862 after receiving a package of orchids. “Good heavens,” Darwin wrote about the Angraecum sesquipedale, an orchid from Madagascar with a nectary as long as his forearm, ”what insect can suck it?” There must exist a pollinator moth with a tongue longer than any that has ever been observed, he conjectured later. The moth and the orchid must have evolved in dialogue. This

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