What Makes a Person Trustworthy?

Many people are working far beyond their emotional capacity at all times. You might not realize it, but you’re taxing their systems just by being who you are. What’s worse, a lot of people promise way too much, both because they overestimate their own emotional capacity and because they’re trying to embody some ideal that lives inside their heads. They know exactly how a person should be: supportive, dependable, consistent, devoted, affectionate, open, and willing to listen. But then life happens. Emotions take over, anxiety sets in, and the actual flawed human being who promised so much finds it impossible to deliver anything at all. As a longtime romantic idealist, I recognize this flaw in myself. I used to tell people I was the best friend you could possibly have after a break up. This was sometimes true. But I also believed that I was the best friend anyone could have at any time, and this was inaccurate. I had a terrible habit of working too hard and wearing myself out emotionally

Many people are working far beyond their emotional capacity at all times. You might not realize it, but you’re taxing their systems just by being who you are. What’s worse, a lot of people promise way too much, both because they overestimate their own emotional capacity and because they’re trying to embody some ideal that lives inside their heads. They know exactly how a person should be: supportive, dependable, consistent, devoted, affectionate, open, and willing to listen. But then life happens. Emotions take over, anxiety sets in, and the actual flawed human being who promised so much finds