Self-help is dead; long live self-help - With Love, Mel

If you like reading my work, it’s the best way to support my writing and help see more of it in the world. For now, everyone will get the same content, but that will change soon. 🫀 - Mel Upgrade to paid One of the easiest ways to notice a trend emerge in a community is through its language. And by far the biggest vocabulary change I’ve noticed recently is that people are using the world “unfolding” a whole lot more. So… I think we are on the cusp of a significant shift in the leading self-help paradigm. Let me explain. I’ve been wanting to write about this for a while. It’s no secret that we are obsessed with improving ourselves. The self-help economy is well over $10B, and we all know the friend who has gone deep into meditation or tried to dissect and heal all their relational patterns through the lens of attachment theory. (Me, I’m that person). The thing is, self-improvement on its own leads to nowhere. Sherry Ning explains it well: “[It’s]…futile because it implies self-deficienc

If you like reading my work, it’s the best way to support my writing and help see more of it in the world. For now, everyone will get the same content, but that will change soon. 🫀 - Mel Upgrade to paid One of the easiest ways to notice a trend emerge in a community is through its language. And by far the biggest vocabulary change I’ve noticed recently is that people are using the world “unfolding” a whole lot more. So… I think we are on the cusp of a significant shift in the leading self-help paradigm. Let me explain. I’ve been wanting to write about this for a while. It’s no secret that we