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Strength Dictates Weakness

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I have always considered communication a strength of mine. I enjoy speaking and writing, and do so often. I am forceful in championing my point of view. It took years to realize that I was “communicating” so much that I wasn’t listening. I was either drowning out my peers or waiting for my turn to speak. After years of antagonizing my peers in this way Sheryl Sandberg pulled me aside and told me my behavior was holding me back. I resisted the feedback. I had produced great results in my career and this was how I had done it so how could that be holding me back? She smiled and with all the kindness in the world she told me, “Boz, you have been effective in spite of your behavior, not because of it. I know you are afraid if you grow you will lose your power. You are wrong. You will have so much more.” She was right. We are often afflicted with a fixed mindset. We perceive our strengths and concomitant weaknesses as innate properties of our person. They are part of our identity. In that l

Strength Dictates Weakness Your greatest strengths almost certainly dictate your greatest weaknesses. I have always considered communication a strength of mine. I enjoy speaking and writing, and do so often. I am forceful in championing my point of view. It took years to realize that I was “communicating” so much that I wasn’t listening. I was either drowning out my peers or waiting for my turn to speak. After years of antagonizing my peers in this way Sheryl Sandberg pulled me aside and told me my behavior was holding me back. I resisted the feedback. I had produced great results in my career

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