the essence of love is... annoyance? - by Ava
For everyone who’s participated in the matchmaking experiment—I will be sending out your matches tonight or tomorrow morning, thanks to Sophia’s hard work :) To everyone who didn’t get in this round: we will do another batch soon!! When you’re enmeshed with someone, both their flaws and their positive qualities become your whole life. This is, I guess you could say, the downside of intimacy. Seen from afar, someone might look like a house you’d like to promptly move into—pretty, spacious, great wood floors. But when you’re actually living inside them the sound of construction coming from the upstairs window and the leaky ceiling make you crazy. How could you have known? Should you have known? I find myself wondering how other people feel in relationships, or how they desire to feel. Jackson told me about the “bored or annoyed” test a few years ago—some people prefer to be bored in intimate relationships, and others prefer to be annoyed. I was noodling on it this morning, wondering why
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