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how to become friends with literally anyone

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Once in a while, people ask me who my friends are. Do you mainly hang out with friends from school, or friends from work, which, I suppose, is the primary option set for where one could source friends. They are surprised at my answer: that it is neither– really, it’s just friends I’ve made from running around New York. Friends of friends, people I just meet at parties and hit it off with. That sort of deal. Apparently this is unusual, and I want to talk to you about it. I am the most extraverted person I know. I will talk to anyone under the sun, about any topic under the sun, as long as the other party is interested. Consequently, I end up finding myself invited to random events semi-frequently, which lead to warm, 2-hour coffees, which then lead to more house parties, which settles me nicely into a pleasant infinite loop of meeting new and interesting people. I am inordinately good at befriending people because (1) I love people and (2) I hate small talk. So by befriend, I mean I don

Once in a while, people ask me who my friends are. Do you mainly hang out with friends from school, or friends from work, which, I suppose, is the primary option set for where one could source friends. They are surprised at my answer: that it is neither– really, it’s just friends I’ve made from running around New York. Friends of friends, people I just meet at parties and hit it off with. That sort of deal. Apparently this is unusual, and I want to talk to you about it. I am the most extraverted person I know. I will talk to anyone under the sun, about any topic under the sun, as long as the o

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