The Men Who Sabotage Women's Fertility

One thing I always find funny when I hear discussions about the reasons for the falling birth rate is that while this topic serves as an ink blot test for folks to project their own personal pet issues (no wonder nobody wants to have kids anymore, it’s nearly impossible to find Taylor Swift tickets!!) the “keepers” of the birth rate, according to various thinkpieces, consistently seem to be women. Either women rightfully don’t want to have kids because they’re saddled with unhelpful partners and an impossible cost of living, or women don’t want to have kids because they’re too busy “girlbossing.” I wrote about why both of those theories are stupid here, but one thing glaringly missing from the equation is: At twenty-two, I found myself in an incredibly tricky situation. I desperately wanted my twenty-four-year-old boyfriend, Nick, to propose. We had been together for three and a half years and lived together for one, which felt like enough time, but he wasn’t ready. He assured me he kn

One thing I always find funny when I hear discussions about the reasons for the falling birth rate is that while this topic serves as an ink blot test for folks to project their own personal pet issues (no wonder nobody wants to have kids anymore, it’s nearly impossible to find Taylor Swift tickets!!) the “keepers” of the birth rate, according to various thinkpieces, consistently seem to be women. Either women rightfully don’t want to have kids because they’re saddled with unhelpful partners and an impossible cost of living, or women don’t want to have kids because they’re too busy “girlbossin