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Love Has No Gain or Loss

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What’s the line between the two, and how can we distinguish these phenomena from one another? This is the question I want to explore today. Let’s start with dependency. In a sense, we are all dependent on one another. I depend on the labor of strangers to assemble this computer I’m typing on now. I require the assistance of others to put food in the grocery store on my behalf. Without the sustained cooperation of people I will never know, it will be very difficult for me (and anyone else) to survive. But this is not strain of dependency I’m referring to today. When I speak of unhealthy dependency, it has to do with a reliance upon another human being to regulate your emotional state. It’s when you require someone else’s presence to act as an anchor for the decisions you make or the actions you pursue. If the person wasn’t present, your intuition would take a hit, particularly because you outsourced so much of it to that individual. Dependency is often mistaken for love because if you d

Love Has No Gain or Loss Archive ↓ Best Posts All Posts Recent Posts Newsletter Book Courses ↓ Thinking In Stories The Examined Writer Reflections Love Has No Gain or Loss By Lawrence Yeo Dependency is not love, yet we often confuse one for the other. What’s the line between the two, and how can we distinguish these phenomena from one another? This is the question I want to explore today. Let’s start with dependency. In a sense, we are all dependent on one another. I depend on the labor of strangers to assemble this computer I’m typing on now. I require the assistance of others to put food in

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