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crushes are often just misplaced ambition - by Isabel

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There's this notion I came across in one of Ava's essays that every crush is just misplaced ambition. She said that the line came from Heather Havrilesky's advice column called Ask Polly. I loved the line so much that I tried to dig through the Ask Polly columns to find where it came from. I couldn't find it. But I found a lot of similar, related advice in Ask Polly that got me thinking a lot about where crushes come from, why we have them, what draws us to people, and what draws us to people so deeply that we start to feel the buds of love with them—a romantic mapping of ourselves to them that softens our sense of self, that makes us excited, nervous. The feeling we get around a crush, or when a crush is starting to form, is actually quite similar to the feeling we get when we define a new goal or set a new aim that really excites us. Like signing up for a marathon, or trying to get into medical school, or meeting someone doing exactly what we want to be doing. We start to imagine our

crushes are often just misplaced ambition what the people we're drawn to tell us about ourselves Isabel Jun 07, 2022 1,055 34 189 Share Manhattan at sunset on film, November 2021 There's this notion I came across in one of Ava's essays that every crush is just misplaced ambition. She said that the line came from Heather Havrilesky's advice column called Ask Polly . I loved the line so much that I tried to dig through the Ask Polly columns to find where it came from. I couldn't find it. But I found a lot of similar, related advice in Ask Polly that got me thinking a lot about where crushes come

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