#66: What if I told you I have a theory - by Haley Nahman

In several conversations over the last several months, I’ve found myself returning to a theory about life. I realize that makes me sound 22, but I’m not sure how else to put it. I’m also certain this theory has been understood and explored by others in various writings, but I’ve never known of or read any of them, and thus it feels original to me, which is beautiful. The point of the theory is to understand our behaviors over time, especially when they confound us. Through that process we may even come to embrace our various conflicting qualities, like the part of us that loves to cook and the part that can’t stand the thought of it. It’s a theory of inconsistency as a rule—even a goal. A theory of instability as the ultimate equilibrium.

In several conversations over the last several months, I’ve found myself returning to a theory about life. I realize that makes me sound 22, but I’m not sure how else to put it. I’m also certain this theory has been understood and explored by others in various writings, but I’ve never known of or read any of them, and thus it feels original to me, which is beautiful. The point of the theory is to understand our behaviors over time, especially when they confound us. Through that process we may even come to embrace our various conflicting qualities, like the part of us that loves to cook and the