The Trouble With Wanting Men - The New York Times

Women are so fed up with dating men that the phenomenon even has a name: heterofatalism. So what do we do with our desire? Credit... Illustration by Kristina Tzekova Supported by By Jean Garnett The stranger arrived at the bar before I did, as I intended him to, and was waiting for me at a table in back. He had the kind of face I like, and he had been a little difficult to pin down, delayed in his responses, which I also like. The place was loud with the “having fun” sounds people make when they expect to have fun any minute now, so we were leaning in to hear each other. His hair, I thought, would be good to put my hands in. There comes a time, usually, when a few extra beats of eye contact are enough. We passed through these beats, took each other’s wrists and met across the table, which was wide enough to frustrate kissing in the right way, keeping the rest of us well apart. Back at my place he was a little shy, I thought, or a little out of practice, but I felt he wanted me, which w

Women are so fed up with dating men that the phenomenon even has a name: heterofatalism. So what do we do with our desire? Credit... Illustration by Kristina Tzekova Supported by By Jean Garnett The stranger arrived at the bar before I did, as I intended him to, and was waiting for me at a table in back. He had the kind of face I like, and he had been a little difficult to pin down, delayed in his responses, which I also like. The place was loud with the “having fun” sounds people make when they expect to have fun any minute now, so we were leaning in to hear each other. His hair, I thought, w