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“The Heartbeat: The lessons of 2023.” | LinkedIn

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A weekly email for women entrepreneurs of color filled with powerful mindset techniques to create a life + business you love. Recently, I’ve been waking up throughout the night with big aha moments. It’s as though my conscious mind is catching me during subconscious and unconscious mental processing so that I can finally “get it.” At 3 am last week, I woke up next to my partner with a clear realization: “Oh, it’s not my job to take care of his emotions.” Then: “Ohmigod, this is the first time in my life where I am in a relationship with someone where it’s not my job to make sure they’re happy.” I turned onto my back. I closed my eyes and let that sink in. I am 45 years old. For all of my life, I have been responsible for managing someone else’s emotional terrain for me to feel “safe.” It started with my parents. With trying to mediate between them and create a diversion, so that they wouldn’t blow up at each other. Then, when I caught their attention, I became the target of their ire,

A weekly email for women entrepreneurs of color filled with powerful mindset techniques to create a life + business you love. Recently, I’ve been waking up throughout the night with big aha moments. It’s as though my conscious mind is catching me during subconscious and unconscious mental processing so that I can finally “get it.” At 3 am last week, I woke up next to my partner with a clear realization: “Oh, it’s not my job to take care of his emotions.” Then: “Ohmigod, this is the first time in my life where I am in a relationship with someone where it’s not my job to make sure they’re happy.

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