#95: Are you a baby? A litmus test - by Haley Nahman

Usually I find the online discourse surrounding “being an adult” pretty embarrassing, but I’ve had a couple ideas about it floating around in my notes for a while, so today I’m giving in. I blame TikTok for continuing to serve me videos of therapists explaining the definition of boundaries (honestly they’ve been kind of helpful…lol). Hope you enjoy my charts. The other day some friends and I were reminiscing about an app idea we had years ago that would allow you to “blind cancel” on your friends. That is, flag if you were open to canceling a plan, which your friend would only see if they also flagged it. Basically, it was Tinder for bailing. This was our ultimate dream: an official, guilt-free conduit for the quiet hope that your friend wants to cancel, too. It only recently occurred to me that what we actually needed was to grow up—get to know ourselves, learn to communicate. Trying to weasel out of all that with an app is, well, basically the entire value prop of Silicon Valley, but

Usually I find the online discourse surrounding “being an adult” pretty embarrassing, but I’ve had a couple ideas about it floating around in my notes for a while, so today I’m giving in. I blame TikTok for continuing to serve me videos of therapists explaining the definition of boundaries (honestly they’ve been kind of helpful…lol). Hope you enjoy my charts. The other day some friends and I were reminiscing about an app idea we had years ago that would allow you to “blind cancel” on your friends. That is, flag if you were open to canceling a plan, which your friend would only see if they also