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Is X like Sleeping? — Behzod

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For the last year and change, when I’ve run into problems, I’ve found myself asking “Is this like sleeping?” When I ask myself that question, I’m asking “Can I make this thing possible on my own, or do I need to focus on creating the conditions by which this thing can emerge?” In some cases (like exercise), the best way forward is through — I go down to the gym and start moving, and the workout often appears. But in other cases, like relationships (romantic or otherwise), things look a lot more like sleeping. What I love about this question is that it’s very similar (and related IMO) to the famous Jerry Colonna question “How am I complicit in creating the conditions I say I don’t want?” Once you realize that the way forward is about the design of an environment/conditions, you can more clearly interrogate where are you getting in your own way. Updated August 2022. Cold emails welcome.

Is X like sleeping? May 3 Written By Behzod Sirjani This tweet from Jonny Miller lives rent free in my head: View fullsize For the last year and change, when I’ve run into problems, I’ve found myself asking “Is this like sleeping?” When I ask myself that question, I’m asking “Can I make this thing possible on my own, or do I need to focus on creating the conditions by which this thing can emerge?” In some cases (like exercise), the best way forward is through — I go down to the gym and start moving, and the workout often appears. But in other cases, like relationships (romantic or otherwise),

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