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What could be better than validation? - Eurydice Lives

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There’s an applied behavior analyst who primarily works with children that I follow on Instagram (@abanaturally). I find her mesmerizing. She (obviously) is never yelling at her children in her videos, but almost all of her videos show her guiding her children’s behavior, including denying them things that they want. There is an immovable air to her approach, with a tranquility and sturdiness reminiscent of natural features - stillness like that of a tree or glacier. As I’ve said before, other people can feel your feelings. This is not a post about empathy and it’s not a post about validation. Indeed, there is a negative, intrusive kind of empathy that happens sometimes despite our best efforts: we often feel pushed around by other people’s emotions unless we’re unusually grounded, mature, and developed. This implies that it is a kindness to the people around you, especially the people close to you, to have a gentle, capable handle on your emotions: Soothing yourself so others don’t ha

What could be better than validation? A Valentine's Day post Eurydice Feb 14, 2025 69 2 19 Share There’s an applied behavior analyst who primarily works with children that I follow on Instagram (@abanaturally). I find her mesmerizing. She (obviously) is never yelling at her children in her videos, but almost all of her videos show her guiding her children’s behavior, including denying them things that they want. There is an immovable air to her approach, with a tranquility and sturdiness reminiscent of natural features - stillness like that of a tree or glacier. As I’ve said before, other peop

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