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the tragedy of asian parenting - by nancy

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i grew up taking piano, dance, chinese, writing, swim, speech, kung fu classes. many of the typical extracurriculars every asian kid does. but i hated them. mom never made a point to explain why these classes were important or how they related to getting good grades in school so i just could not get myself to care. every week i'd whine and complain. lock myself in my room. pin myself to the ground as my mom dragged me by the legs to get me to go to chinese classes she had already paid for. "mom i don't even use chinese!!!" "this is america! we don't speak in chinese here" "see?? dad agrees with me" in class i'd fall asleep. draw on my textbooks to pass time. purposely perform badly so my mom would give up on sending me to them. college applications rolled around. i stopped going to extracurricular classes. i gave up music. gave up sports. forgot chinese words. gave it all up. gave it up for college. for what i thought was success. for a job. for a career. all the time my mom spent send

the tragedy of asian parenting the extracurriculars i hated nancy Mar 13, 2024 ∙ Paid 11 3 Share i grew up taking piano, dance, chinese, writing, swim, speech, kung fu classes. many of the typical extracurriculars every asian kid does. but i hated them. mom never made a point to explain why these classes were important or how they related to getting good grades in school so i just could not get myself to care. every week i'd whine and complain. lock myself in my room. pin myself to the ground as my mom dragged me by the legs to get me to go to chinese classes she had already paid for. "mom i d

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