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How to start a club

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The thing about adulthood is that no one is coming to save you. So if you want to make more friends, you have to make more friends. The recipe = this blog post. The raw ingredients = people. (File under “metaphors that imply cannibalism if you think too hard”…) You clicked on this guide because you want to create a social group, whether IRL or online. Good news first: People inherently want to hang out with other people. They are mainly blocked by: We can’t do anything about #3 so we’ll ignore that category of blocker. Your job is to 1) conquer your own fear and 2) create Schelling points and advertise them to suitable prospects. That’s all you have to do. If you want to create some kind of programming for the group to enjoy, cool, but don’t feel like it’s required. (And if you don't know what a Schelling point is, no worries, I'll explain momentarily.) The fear: If you put yourself out there and organize events, you might get rejected. What if nobody shows up?! Maybe you’ll invite som

The thing about adulthood is that no one is coming to save you. So if you want to make more friends, you have to make more friends. The recipe = this blog post. The raw ingredients = people. (File under “metaphors that imply cannibalism if you think too hard”…) You clicked on this guide because you want to create a social group, whether IRL or online. Good news first: People inherently want to hang out with other people. They are mainly blocked by: Fear Lack of convenient Schelling points around which to coordinate Random life stress or personal problems We can’t do anything about #3 so we’ll

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