matrimony - by Molly Mielke - Milky

I got engaged recently :) and keep getting asked the question of how I knew he was the one. My answer is simple: he saw me fully from the beginning, made me feel deeply safe, our dynamic felt like play, and I truly believe he’s the best person I know. Love has changed me a lot. I used to be an incessant ruminator, convinced I could create the outcomes I wanted if I just plotted and planned the world (and more accurately, myself) into submission. The past few years have been a process of learning to trust and nesting in myself. Lesson #1 was learned over our first dinner. I’d never felt so ambiently accepted before — a special sort of admiration without possessiveness. That acceptance then morphed into mutual adoration, followed shortly thereafter by complete love. He showed me that he didn’t want to own me by helping me see all the ways I was the one trapping myself. All of our “steps forward” didn’t feel like steps at all — we were already there, just now with a label applied. I’m afr

I got engaged recently :) and keep getting asked the question of how I knew he was the one. My answer is simple: he saw me fully from the beginning, made me feel deeply safe, our dynamic felt like play, and I truly believe he’s the best person I know. Love has changed me a lot. I used to be an incessant ruminator, convinced I could create the outcomes I wanted if I just plotted and planned the world (and more accurately, myself) into submission. The past few years have been a process of learning to trust and nesting in myself. Lesson #1 was learned over our first dinner. I’d never felt so ambi