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2: Grieve - Valarie Kaur

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“Grief is the price of love. Loving someone means that one day, there will be grieving. They will leave you, or you will leave them. The more you love, the more you grieve. Loving someone also means grieving with them. It means letting their pain and loss bleed into your own heart. When you see that pain coming, you may want to throw up the guard rails, sound the alarm, raise the flag, but you must keep the borders of your heart porous in order to love well. It is an act of surrender. . . . When we are brave enough to sit with our pain, it deepens our ability to sit with the pain of others. It shows us how to love them.” “We come to know people when we grieve with them through stories and rituals. It is how we can build real solidarity, the kind that points us to the world we want to live in—and our role in fighting for it….America’s greatest social movements—for civil rights, immigrants’ rights, women’s rights, union organizing, queer and trans rights, farmworkers’ rights, indigenous

Learn → The Compass → Love for Others → Love for Opponents → Love for Ourselves → Resources You can use the Revolutionary Love Compass as a tool in all arenas in your life. We have identified ten core practices of revolutionary love , backed by research and infused with ancestral wisdom. Revolutionary Love is the choice to labor for others, our opponents, and ourselves to transform the world around us. It begins with wonder: “You are a part of me I do not yet know.” Think of these practices as points on a compass. Point the compass toward whomever you want to practice loving— another, an oppon

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