The Psychiatrist’s Case for Downsizing a Friendship - The Atlantic

A new book on attachment theory proposes a radical solution for the anxious among us.

Listen − 1.0 x + Seek 0:00 11:19 This article was featured in the One Story to Read Today newsletter. Sign up for it here. A successful stock-market trader once went to therapy with a very specific request. He had been dating a woman he was really excited about—but now she wasn’t responding to his texts, and he was despondent. He was frustrated with her, but also with himself: with his own sensitivity to rejection, with his sensitivity to everything , with the blaring siren in his brain activated by the tiniest hint of danger. He knew some people would call such delicacy an “anxious attachment

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