General Advice for Figuring Out Life | by Johnson Hsieh | Medium

So my friend was telling me about problems at work, and I did my best to resist giving advice and instead focus on mirroring, understanding, rephrasing in terms of feelings/needs, etc. … But he was sort of soliciting advice and clearly motivated, and I didn’t want him to focus on incomplete advice, so I bit. I ended up sharing advice that roughly described my journey the last few years that I think applies to pretty much all circumstances (including work), though with a lot less bumbling around. This is a slightly cleaned up version of that advice. I think there’s generally 2 main avenues for ongoing effort — inner and outer (a la AQAL). Outer would be like “what do I do?” (e.g. quit my job), inner would be like “how do I feel?” (e.g. at peace, conflicted, misunderstood, angry, etc). The 2 are in a circular relationship (e.g. communicating with a manager might help ease feelings of betrayal might help you quit and feel good about it). All of this is predicated on having a good working

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