If You're Wondering, "Is This It?" It's Not

We’ve all dated disasters. Cocaine addicts that dump us on our birthdays, men so hot they’ve never learned how to properly have sex, men that fake a medical emergency to get you to call them back, virgins who wear Tevas to nice restaurants, men who ghost you even though you’re in the same friend group, men who tell you on the first date that they “don’t like their little sisters” (For legal reasons, these are only hypothetical examples, of course). These are the relationships that make for eye-rolling, groan-inducing, funny anecdotes later in life. We all have a few in our lives. But as cringe-worthy as these walking red flags are, they’re often much easier to deal with than the good partners, the kind partners, the partners where nothing is wrong…but something isn’t right. I’ve been in a relationship like that…the relationship that looked perfect on the outside, but made me wonder constantly, “Is this it?” I’ve seen friends in relationships like that, friends who’ve leaned over dinner

We’ve all dated disasters. Cocaine addicts that dump us on our birthdays, men so hot they’ve never learned how to properly have sex, men that fake a medical emergency to get you to call them back, virgins who wear Tevas to nice restaurants, men who ghost you even though you’re in the same friend group, men who tell you on the first date that they “don’t like their little sisters” (For legal reasons, these are only hypothetical examples, of course). These are the relationships that make for eye-rolling, groan-inducing, funny anecdotes later in life. We all have a few in our lives. But as cringe