the best dating advice I’ve ever gotten

If you’ve been around this newsletter for the past few months, you may be aware that I am in capital L o-v-e love. (See here, here, and here for reference.) But if you’ve been a long-term reader, you know this has simply not been the case. As a friend once so kindly put it: Maybe one day you’ll write about something other than addiction and chasing men. Apparently, that day has arrived. But how did we get here? As a scorned student of the self-help scheme who had dedicated entire floor-to-ceiling bookcases to the genre, I decided one day to stop seeking advice. I had spent so much time obsessively consuming mental models and decision frameworks, when really, I needed to pay attention to my inner knowing. This change generally has worked well for me. I feel more autonomy and gratitude in my life, knowing that I am charting the path that feels right for me. But then, at an astrology workshop no less, I met a woman who changed my life with her advice. Her name is Kautar and she’s an incre

If you’ve been around this newsletter for the past few months, you may be aware that I am in capital L o-v-e love. (See here, here, and here for reference.) But if you’ve been a long-term reader, you know this has simply not been the case. As a friend once so kindly put it: Maybe one day you’ll write about something other than addiction and chasing men. Apparently, that day has arrived. But how did we get here? As a scorned student of the self-help scheme who had dedicated entire floor-to-ceiling bookcases to the genre, I decided one day to stop seeking advice. I had spent so much time obsessi