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Making Normal Conversations Better - by Sasha Chapin

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Most conversations between people who’ve just met, or loose acquaintances, are pretty shitty. And it’s not for lack of desire. The majority of people, I think, want to connect with people and open up about something. Almost everyone is full of some vital matter they’d like to express but that exceeds the capacity of the average conversational venue. Personally, I try to assume that I can make conversations much better and that everyone I speak to could be a friend I haven’t met yet, or, at least, someone who’d like to be seen and understood. Note that I hold this assumption lightly and am ready to discard it at a moment’s notice. Some people don’t want to talk to you at all and that’s fine. Sometimes people are genial but have no interest in connecting with you on a deeper level, and that’s fine. Sometimes people are so devoted to playing status games that all they want to do is undermine you, or rattle off their accomplishments, and that’s annoying, but there’s not much you can do. Th

Making Normal Conversations Better some notes on an endless skill Sasha Chapin Jul 29, 2022 495 25 38 Share Most conversations between people who’ve just met, or loose acquaintances, are pretty shitty. And it’s not for lack of desire. The majority of people, I think, want to connect with people and open up about something. Almost everyone is full of some vital matter they’d like to express but that exceeds the capacity of the average conversational venue. Personally, I try to assume that I can make conversations much better and that everyone I speak to could be a friend I haven’t met yet, or,

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