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“it's kind of a turn-off to be 'better' than my partner”

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"[My boyfriend] while being incredibly kind, smart, and witty...has no ambition to do...anything!...We've been together for three years, and he still hasn't really done anything to seek treatment for his mental health struggles. He's very intelligent when it comes to certain things, but when it comes to "life admin" stuff, he's completely incompetent. He always supports me and goes along with what I want to do, but I'm getting tired of having to run his life for him, too. ...I feel stuck. I love him, and I love experiencing new things with him. But I am tired of dragging him to do anything (sometimes literally)...When I've tried to date more ambitious guys, their personalities turn me off. At the same time, it's kind of a turn-off to be "better" than my partner...Do I keep towing him along behind me or leave him in the dust?"

“it's kind of a turn-off to be 'better' than my partner” mixed feelings and Bel Hawkins Jan 28, 2025 52 1 8 Share mixed feelings’ multi-voiced advice column features a mental health expert or writer who responds to your most pressing existential conundrums. Use our anonymous form to be considered for a future newsletter. This week, Bel Hawkins answers: Should I leave my unambitious partner? art by Logan Tsugita. dear mf, I'm a 26-year-old female with a bachelor's degree and a full-time "big girl" job with a nearly 6-figure salary. I have a lot of friends and hobbies, strong relationships with

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