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The story of me leaving LA and deciding to move to New York

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I am a very slow writer—I started writing this just before New Years’, when I thought people would be thinking about changing their lives. I wanted to write about getting out of a bad situation that felt hopeless, giving up on a plan that had been worked on for many years, and starting over at an age, 39, when it feels embarrassing not to have even the most basic elements of life in place: where you live, what you do for a living, who you’re close to. And I wanted to tell you, from the other side, how almost unbelievably well it’s worked out. I have been in New York now for 16 months, and at around Month 4 I started saying “every month has been better than the last.” I did not expect I would still be saying that at Month 16. I know it has to plateau at some point—plateauing after the first few months would have been totally acceptable, actually! That’s all I needed! I just didn’t want to be in hell!—but for now, it’s still getting better. This is maybe what it looks like to be where yo

The story of me leaving LA and deciding to move to New York It seem like you can change your life when you're 39 Stephen Thomas Feb 12, 2024 32 2 5 Share EXECUTIVE SUMMARY I am a very slow writer—I started writing this just before New Years’, when I thought people would be thinking about changing their lives. I wanted to write about getting out of a bad situation that felt hopeless, giving up on a plan that had been worked on for many years, and starting over at an age, 39, when it feels embarrassing not to have even the most basic elements of life in place: where you live, what you do for a l

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