flâneur — a map of the web's best reading

Love is to be invested in someone’s continual expansion

henrikkarlsson.xyz · 3,558 words · saved by 1 readers

This is one of the joys and challenges of love: the more skillfully you love someone, the more held, encouraged, and accepted they feel, the more they change.

Love is about being invested in someone’s continual expansion Looking for Alice, part 5 Henrik Karlsson May 20, 2026 3,135 64 750 Share This is the fifth part of a series on relationships begun with “ Looking for Alice ” ( which is about how I met my wife Johanna), “ Dostoevsky as lover ” (about our early years together), “ Relationships are coevolutionary loops ,” and “ When I accept myself as I am, I change .” Love is to be invested in someone’s continual expansion Kiss on a Swing at a Street Fair, Brassaï (Gyula Halász), c. 1936 When we moved to the farm on the island, Johanna and I had bee

Explore this link on the map →

saved by

related reading